Gentlemen, can you guess the number one complaint men have about their relationships?
Of course you can. It is – “Not enough sex”.
The Wall Street Journal reports that men cite their partner’s low sexual desire as an important bargain in long-term relationships.
Can you connect?
What if I told you there’s a sure way to solve it? Something your wife finds super sexy and you would like to do more often (as in, all the time). And you do not even have to give yourself a holiday in Monaco or a Hope-sized diamond.
The solution to get more sex from the woman in your life is simple: SEDUCTION.
It is true, seduction … the art of creating animal magnetism that you initially practiced to attract it at first.
Remember that? No? Then let me refresh your memory.
Before you two exclusives announced and changed the status of Facebook in “In a relationship”, even before meeting this woman of your dreams (and future mother of your children), you were single.
To spend the night with someone who is not your cable service provider and your right hand, you would go out and hopefully meet a woman. Perhaps you were a natural with women and women swept away from their feet at first sight. Or maybe you hired an appointment coach or attended seminars with pick-up artists.
However it emerged, you practiced the art of seduction to make this goddess-of-a-woman not just the exchange of numbers, but, in the end, sleep with you.
You probably used different techniques: romantic dinners and light touches of flowers and thin but delicate kisses on the nape (which made her want to immediately ask for a check, opting for dessert instead of tiramisu). Do you ring a bell now?
So, what made you stop? Complacency? Laziness? False sense of security or right?
Whatever it was, you need to bring it back.
Let me state the obvious: men are visual and sexual creatures. All you need to be excited (as long as you are attracted to a woman) is that you touch your pee or get undressed. Sometimes all you have to do is show up.
Men see tits and legs and are ready and capable. Not so with women.
You already know that women are much more complex creatures when it comes to sexual arousal. You do not believe me? Read the research done by some really intelligent scientists for the International Journal of Impotence Research (yes, there is such a publication – who knew?). It lists more conditions for fluctuations in female sexual arousal than this article may contain: personal relationships, family problems, childhood problems, emotional state, physical conditions, menstrual cycles, and so on.
When it comes to seduction, you should know your woman better. But if you forgot how this seduction thing goes, let me remember.
First, consider things that are NOT seduction. In reality, these actions are a huge TURN OFF! Falli and you’re killing your chances of wanting sex:
1. Grasp your body
If he is working at his desk, coming from behind and holding his hand in his bra, you will be reprimanded if you are lucky, or a slap if you are not. One thing that will not do you is a fuck. It’s not sexy. It’s not good. So stop it.
2. Suddenly remaining naked (or whipping your d * ck)
Remember when I said that women are not as visual as men? They see a lot of hot bodies on the internet and cable. Do not expect me to attack you only because you are in front of her in all your naked glory. The only thing you’ll get with that stupid crawling move is a cold. Not sex
3. Cruel speaking of the desire for sex
There is a time and place for “dirty talk” but, before starting to warm up, it is a serious mistake. Start in a more subtle way. Say things like “You turn me on, get bent!” It will assure you that you do not have them. Even the phrases like “I’m in the mood, right?” Or “Wanna do it now?” They are not exciting at all.
Being rough, rude or tactless in your approach to sex tells her that you do not think it’s worth it. So, why should you think you are?
So, what do you do instead? How do you seduce your woman so she does not end up alone or in the office of a therapist who complains about lack of sex? Here’s how you remind her that she actually finds you attractive and likes having sex with you:
Watch your best Think of ZZ Top: ‘Every girl is crazy’ for a man dressed in a sharp way. ‘And guys, it’s true.
Get an advantage! Do not start trying to seduce her when you want to have sex. Start earlier, at dinner, flirting with her across the table (yes, you can do it even after you’ve known each of them for 10 months or 10 years). Tell her she’s beautiful … and seriously!
Make her want you! This is the key to the whole seduction experience. How do you force yourself to want you? You do it by increasing sexual tension. Gently brush your hand against his. Let your hand linger on your back or arms while you touch it. Whisper something in his ear (usually something like “you’re stunning” or similar, just refrain from reminding her to pick up the car from the mechanic or ask what’s for dinner).
Slow down! Instead of grabbing her breasts, she kisses the back of her neck. Trust guys, it’s a erogenous zone in women. As long as you do not end up licking the décolleté, the kisses around your neck are a good place to start. When you get to boobs, you’ve moved on to foreplay.
Gradually undressed together. Strip it (and yourself) slowly. Look it in the eyes (do not just fix its 34DD).
Gentlemen: there is a wealth of books and songs on the art of seduction. There are so many ways to seduce the woman you love as there are women in the world. You successfully seduced her and loved the benefits of that effort you made. After all, not only did you bring her out with you, but you also stayed on your feet!
It does not take long to do it again.
Remember, as long as you continue to seduce her, you will never find yourself complaining about sex in your relationship (except if there is, perhaps, too much of it).